Change they say is the only constant in any individual’s life but how many of us are accepting and welcoming towards change especially if it is not to our liking? Even though we might not like it, one cannot avoid change. Bury your head or turn away, change will take its toll on life and everything surrounding it.
It sometimes creeps into our lives slowly allowing us time and space to adjust to minor and major changes but most of the times it is thrust on us especially in case of spouse betrayal and the ensuing divorce. But there are times we are forced to wake up and make the changes ourselves to our situation irrespective of how bitter a draught it is.
Change is like quicksand, the deeper you try to sink in your feet for a fleeting sense of security the more quickly you are sucked into it. The question then arises of how to navigate change you are not prepared for or never wanted. Separation and divorce taught me that accepting change albeit grudgingly sometimes helps navigating the stormy waters, but ignoring change will result in you being left behind while the rest of the world moves on. Recovering from such a situation can be costly, emotionally and physically.
Despite the fact that I fought change when it initially brought divorce into my life, in retrospective it was one of the best things that happened to me in recent times. It has shown me the qualities I possess of which I had no prior knowledge, helped me become stronger and be more receptive towards the lessons life has to teach. Change showed me the larger possibilities of life which I could not ignore especially if I wanted a certain standard of life for my family and me. The vision of my next few steps are clearer than ever before and never in the past have I been so excited about my life and all things I wish to achieve. I have my peace of mind and more importantly a confidence in my step which I lacked before despite the many accomplishments in my academic and professional life.
So, the next time you face change, wanted or unwanted, handle the challenges with confidence, seek support if you need it, explore the possibilities change offers and finally enjoy the change to the best you can. They after all do not say for nothing that whatever happens does for the good!